I like to think of the chart as a daily inventory of self-care practices. There is a tendency to make it into a massive list of requirements and then feel bad if you've missed some of them. I hope you stay away from that!! Although, if you do notice this mode of thinking, then that's a great opportunity to practice self-compassion. "I'm doing my best and that is good enough."
Recently I read about striving for 5%. In other words, just trying to achieve an improvement of 5% (in self-compassion, for example). Like, "What would it feel like to be 5% more kind to myself?"
Another way to look at the chart is as a record and not a set of demands. When you're filling it out at night, imagine that you are a scientist simply filling out a form. "What did my test subject do today?" Then over time, you may notice changes in behavior, which would be interesting to correlate. No judgement at all!
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